You've probably found yourself at a point in your life where everything went wrong for you, when you blamed everything and everyone for our unhappiness. You had a lot of obstacles and all this led to our personal defeat. Is this really necessary? Before you put the blame on someone else again, make sure that you may not be to blame for not realizing your dreams and your own failures.
1. Fear is the road to disaster
Our thinking comes from the assumption that the fear we feel will bring something unpleasant and that we will fail. Of course, all of this could be true, because they say it is what we think is what we are. Instead of worrying about what can go wrong, we should look at what can be achieved on the way to our goal. Let's have a plan A and a plan B, but if we are still unsure, we can make a plan C for a sense of security. Let's be positive.
2. Self-denial
Usually, this is a typical way of self-defense, in both sexes. Our unconscious desire is to please others, and by doing so we often forget our feelings and succumb to others. In this way, problems or outbursts quickly arise, which accumulate deep inside us if we remain silent, even though something angers us. Being always available to others robs us of our sense of self-worth. Behind this type of behavior hides the fear that we would be unimportant and unnecessary to others if we showed ourselves in the right light. When we break this way of thinking, we free ourselves and thereby strengthen our sense of self-worth.
3. Pressure on yourself
This is also called burnout and burnout. Some people like to set unrealistic goals and tasks for themselves, because we condition our happiness through certain results. This is good, of course, but it has everything border. This is a negative mental habit that is common nowadays - burnout. If we stop driving when our car runs out of gas, a huge burden is lifted from us.
4. Criticism of oneself and others
We have all criticized ourselves or others. Someone who has big goals is often very critical of himself, while someone who can give up quickly is critical of others. Such people usually play the victim and spread negativity around them. Basically, it means that we are not able to achieve the right goal, which becomes a reason for dissatisfaction and therefore we can spin in a vicious circle in which there is no end in sight. Stop judging yourself, let alone others, because with this you are calling yourself just everything that is negative.
5. We blindly adhere to rigid outdated rules
We all know the "rules" that some people still repeat sacredly, while many are of the opinion that times change, so they can justifiably change to rules and habits. Phrases like "it's always been like this with us... you can't live from this work... work or children... work hard and you'll be able to afford it... obey him and you'll be happy..." are no longer true today. Living in a way that someone imposes such thoughts on us is selfish and limits a person's happiness.
6. Mistrust
Many people know the phrase "I can't trust anyone" or "I can only count on myself". Such an opinion may be the result of difficult experiences from relationships and family. Unfortunately, with such thinking, we are also accompanied by a feeling of loneliness and sadness. A special form of mistrust can already border on narcissism, which is also called maladjustment.
7. Grumbling
It's time to get away from people (or imagine yourself) who are constantly grumbling and complaining about life. Think about how many people you know who are constantly grumbling and always have one or more problems because they are constantly spinning in a cycle of negativity where they only crowd out the good things. Even when they are given the green light for some kind of change, they quickly suppress it and look at it negatively, and later again blame life for not being meant for them.
8. You fear change
If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done. Be it physical things or just psychological changes you want to achieve. Remember, we create our own obstacles in our minds. Our mind does not know what is good or bad, nthe mind just does what we tell it to do. Believe that you can and you will see success.
9. Don't allow yourself to be happy
Whenever something good happens to you, quickly divert your thoughts because you feel like you don't deserve to be happy. Don't let the feelings of happiness and joy wash over you, thinking that it's not real, that you can go on and on. Stop. Breathe and feel the happiness. Smile when you think of happy times and let yourself go.
10. You have no set goals
We all want something, but we have a problem if we create a blockage and we do not believe in achieving goals even before we even try and set off. Think about what you want and, without thinking too much, set out on the path that will lead us to the goal.
