You probably already know them, you just kind of forgot about them!
Sex therapists are convinced that everyone should know the tips below about a healthy sex life.
Communication is the key to a healthy sex life
Talking about sex can be awkward for many couples – no matter what their sexual relationship is. Communication is the key to solving problems in a timely manner. Talking about sex is just as important as sex, say sex experts, because it helps you express your desires and build a language in which to describe them.
If you feel uncomfortable talking openly and honestly with your partner about sex, it will be difficult to share your desires or reveal if there are concerns. Conversations about sexuality should not be limited to the bedroom. You can talk about sex without hesitation over a morning cup of coffee or tea, during a pleasant walk or an evening hug.
Photo: Unsplash/Alexander KrivitskiyThere is nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to other people
Attraction happens—even if you're happily married—and you don't need to feel guilty about it. Nor does marriage suddenly change our basic physiology to notice attractive individuals who cross our path.
If you were attracted to people before you were in a relationship, it is very likely that they will be attracted to you during the relationship as well. If you are attracted to someone, it does not mean that you also want something deeper emotionally or even sexually with them.
You should not judge your spouse's preferences
You and your partner may not always agree about "fetishes," but judgment won't help improve your relationship between the sheets. As with any communication in a relationship, it is desirable that both you and your partner feel safe to discuss feelings and desires without judgment.
If your partner mentions something you're not interested in and really aren't ready to try, be nice and honest about it. Tell him that you don't like his idea and talk to him about it properly.
Photo: Unsplash/Alexander KrivitskiyNever let problems fester
Many people do not want to solve problems in bed because they are either too ashamed or have other concerns. Sometimes months and years go by when couples live in denial about the problem or they do nothing but skip sex or consent to it without real desire. It is therefore best to seek help as soon as possible.
Sex shouldn't be taken so seriously
Good sex is fun and playful, so try to stay relaxed and think creatively even when solving problems. Trying something new can add some fun and excitement to your sex life. Be it a new position, sexy music, romantic lighting... the possibilities are endless.
