We all want healthy, happy relationships, but at the same time we dream of an understanding partner who will always make us feel loved. However, we sometimes forget that the reason we keep finding ourselves in unfulfilling relationships lies within ourselves. We asked what trait can destroy even a happy relationship and how to make sure that it will not be in our relationships.
When we think about happy relationship and "the right one", we often focus on desired partner, his behavior and characteristics. However, the path to healthy love begins with by ourselves namely by making sure we feel worthy of respect, acts of love and of trust.
Experts note that we will property, which can destroy even such a happy relationship, found in our own psyche and our perception of the world and ourselves. That is lack of self-esteem.
Before a relationship, make sure you love yourself Photo: Pavel Danilyuk / PexelsHow does a lack of self-esteem manifest itself?
When we return to the memory past relationships, we often focus on shortcomings of ex-partners and all actions by which we hurt. However, for personal growth and future relationships, it is imperative that let's look inside and honestly ask ourselves why we behave this way in the first place allowed and in connection insisted. Why are we instead of the person who would us appreciated and respected, chose a partner who aroused feelings in us pain and worries. Why did we feel like you were behaving like that we earn.
It is important to clarify with ourselves that we are worthy of love and that we want people by our side who we can be with trusted and which will be prepared for our needs and desires to satisfy. The person around whom we will not wonder if we are enough for her, but we will enjoy solid feelings with her connection and proximity. The easiest way to do this is with help therapy, reading literature about self-confidence, personal growth and self-esteem and meditation. At the same time, it is important to take care of yourself we face the past and let's forgive even to yourself: perhaps you carry the feeling that you are because of past actions you don't deserve love, which is far from the truth.
Do you feel worthy of love? Photo: Gary Barnes / PexelsHow can a lack of self-esteem destroy a relationship?
A lack of self-esteem can cause that in your life we attract people who give us a negative opinion about themselves they confirm. Around such people, we will always feel that we have to love to fight, for her to pray and getting the feeling that we never existed for them good enough. When you will believed unconditionally, that you deserve only the best and that you are kindness and respect worthy, you will not have such a partner at all accepted into your life, but if it comes to that, you will strong enough, that ratio leave it.
A lack of self-esteem can also destroy the relationship in which your partner is involved values. If your self-confidence is low, you will be constantly in love with your partner doubts, him about his actions interrogated and clearly expressed that of trust you don't have it. It is quite expected that the partner in such a relationship it won't be pleasant and he will get the feeling that you only expect from him disappointments.
Therefore, it is imperative that first take care of yourself: before you get into a relationship, do everything you can to be valued themselves and that relationships will not represent you of fear, worries and feelings discomfort.
