To forgive does not mean that you have approved the behavior that is not in line with your belief. At the same time, forgiveness is not a sign of weakness. "Letting go" is sometimes difficult because of the pain you feel, because of the unprocessed emotions that remain. It is not easy to understand people. That is why you often suffer.
But in order to understand others, you must first learn to understand yourself. That's why it's a vicious cycle. People never suffer because of others. They suffer because they do not understand themselves.
The cause of our mental-emotional pain is never past situations or people we have been in a relationship or interaction with
The higher the individual's level of awareness, the faster and easier the healing process will be. A higher level of self-awareness helps to take over responsibility for one's life and experiences. We know that they are the result of our personal choices. Likewise, the higher the individual's consciousness, the more pronounced the level of love and acceptance, and where there is love, there is no resentment and suffering.
By mentally and emotionally focusing on the past, we miss the present and create a future similar to the past
How is it possible that looking at the past creates our future? It is possible because by reliving the past without accepting and understanding it, you are reliving that same past in the present moment and with your energy you attract the same or similar experiences, which are always a reflection of us and an opportunity for new learning. Accepting the past means understanding that every experience served personal knowledge and that we learned from it what kind of people we want and don't want to be today, what kind of people we want and don't want around us, and what kind of life we want or don't want for ourselves.
Forgiveness gives freedom. That's what people who love each other do.
A person who truly loves and respects himself will strive to accept and understand the patterns of behavior and choices that his past experiences have created. It is important to examine your beliefs about forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean that you have approved the behavior that you are not comfortable with. At the same time, forgiveness is not a sign of weakness. By not forgiving you bind yourself, not the person you resent. Isn't this a kind of self-inflicted pain? Understanding and seeing the good in what you could not change will lead you to the ease of living in the moment in which you create your tomorrow.
How to forgive and accept
1. Allow negative emotions to come out
Write down your thoughts, all the words and all the actions that plague and oppress you and cause you unhealed pain.
2. Promise yourself that you will do your best to make every look at the past a reason for joy
The sentence: "When I just remember how it was..." leads you to repetitive pain, so replace it with the sentence: "I'm grateful that it was like that because..." This will immediately give you relief and better energy.
3. Accept that the other party does not need to apologize
People don't owe you anything, and they won't apologize for what they personally don't think they need. They see the situation differently. They think that they are the victim of your behavior and not you of theirs, and because of this, there is a lack of a moment of apology and forgiveness towards you. Acceptance will bring you peace with you. But you have to realize that you are a person who is responsible for your emotions. Therefore, peace or restlessness with oneself is a reflection of the individual's own choice.
4. After each experience, the level of our awareness expands
After each experience, you are richer for new knowledge. You have to accept that maybe with something that happened in your life, you didn't know how to act correctly at the time. So you have to accept that you didn't know then what you know now that it's all behind you. So forgive yourself.
