There is nothing as healing as a human touch. Why is it so important? Touches bring happiness, peace and physical health.
Something as simple as holding hands can lower blood pressure. A hug that can calm you down and channel stress doesn't need a prescription. Touch lowers cortisol levels and strengthens the immune system.
It is a drug that has no contraindications and side effects. However, in a touch-averse culture, we may have trouble accepting this simple solution. We can be caring, warm-hearted, traditionally hospitable and tend to like to help, maybe pat someone on the back, but not too inclined to hug someone.
We are even less willing to extend the hug, because as soon as we feel the exchange of energy and increased closeness, it becomes uncomfortable. Why? Because tenderness (that lasts) evokes feelings. We, on the other hand, are full of repressed emotions and sorrows that we have not processed. Full of sealed contents and if someone hugs us for more than 30 seconds, our brakes can fail and feelings come to the fore.
How can touch relieve tension?
When tension arises in important relationships, the natural response is to withdraw—but this awareness can help. The next time you feel tension rising between you and your partner, engage your observing mind.
Are you aware of all your senses?
Sight, sound, taste, smell and most importantly touch. Notice any thoughts or feelings that arise and then bring your attention back to your physical sensations. Does this process help you relax?
While you are experiencing tension with your partner, see if you can honestly respond to it with a compassionate touch. Place your hand on his and see if you are calm and if your partner is satisfied with this simple act. That's easy a simple way to reduce tension.
Whether gentle touch is used to soothe your heart in a moment of conflict or to promote connection, use this simple, free, and useful tool. Thus, you will become more sensitive, more instinctive and discover that touch has the power to change your relationships with others.
